How to find an ideal partner in love

A lot of people who aren’t in a serious relationship will be looking to find that special someone, even though they might not admit it. We all want to be loved and to have someone to love, but how do we find the person that’s right for us?

Remember, you’re not alone. Finding love is a universal obsession. Think of all the movies that have been made over the years about the quest to find true love – Sleepless in Seattle, True Romance, Brooklyn,  and the upcoming Me Before You, to name but a few

 

Here’s the trailer for Thea Sharrock’s ME BEFORE YOU, a good #52filmsbywomen candidate! https://t.co/2evOKLYcJz pic.twitter.com/VfBTdlojuh — Film Inquiry (@FilmInquiry) February 29, 2016

 

Of course, some would say that you can’t just have a checklist and go out looking for the right person to meet all your requirements. Love doesn’t happen like that; it’s more spontaneous. However, it can help to think about what you really want from a relationship, so that when that certain someone comes along; you have an idea of whether they’re who you’re looking for.

Know what matters to you

To have a good relationship with someone, you need to have a shared outlook and attitude to life. Think about the values that are most important to you, and then see if the person you meet shares those principles.

Think about character traits

We all have certain character traits that other people can complement or clash with. Think about yours – are you shy, outgoing, explosive, generous, a peacemaker? Do you need a yin for your yan? Find out the characteristics that are typical of your star sign. For example, Pisceans are emotional and tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves, but they can tend to be quite timid in nature. There are certain star signs that are highly compatible in love and others where the two partners would have to work harder to form a relationship. Check out which star signs you’re most compatible with. Astrology may not find you the perfect partner, but it might allow you to understand your own nature a little more and help you make the right choices in a relationship.

Take your time

When all your friends are the happy halves of a couple, single life can feel very lonely, and you may want to rush into a relationship to avoid being the ‘gooseberry’. It can also mean that we try to make the wrong relationship work rather than having to go through the process of finding someone new. Don’t be in too much of a rush to find love and it will come when you least expect it.

Think what you can offer and learn to trust your instincts

Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that a relationship is a two-way thing. What have we got to offer that ideal partner; what are our positive qualities? What are our failings? It’s not just about finding someone you like; you have to be a good prospect, too.

Instinct is a great tool – it steers us well in life as a rule. Learn to trust your inner voice. For example, if you meet someone who seems to be perfect but something just doesn’t feel right about the two of you being together, trust that instinct and proceed with caution, if at all.

 

“NYC LOVE” (CC BY 2.0) by  t.germeau 

Be open

You may have a clear idea of who you’re looking for, but if you meet someone who doesn’t fit the exact bill, don’t dismiss them out of hand. You may not really know who your ideal partner  would  be until you get to know them better.